I don't want to say too much about your rules, as whatever they are they seem to be working for your family so far. I had to chuckle when you said you were a small polyfamily, because two guys, five ladies, and seven kids adds up to 14 people!
There must be moments that are ... challenging, with so many individuals and one household. Hmmm, maybe there is more than one household, I shouldn't assume.
To let people know what you're looking for, I'd suggest the Dating & Friendships subforum
You definitely have the right rule in Rule #1.
Wishing you the best,