I am guessing nothing was done intentionally wrong, but I see the merit in having a sit-down with H to make sure he's really okay with things.
I actually was worrying about the verbal-abuse aspect of the situation, as it has sounded like H has had a short fuse at times. But maybe he has been stressed out due to the other factors. The only way to find out is to ask (and hopefully he's willing to answer).
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"