Originally Posted by lolalondon
This came at a sad time for me because I've told him I can't be in a long-term relationship with him any more this afternoon...
Oh lolalondon, I'm so sorry you had to come to this painful conclusion. I'm glad you have been able to understand your needs and boundaries, and I'm glad you were able to communicate them to him.
You have absolutely not been abusive. You are a better woman than I, to not be offended by that post. I like what vinccenzo said very much. My men were so very not like the ones described. There are vast numbers of individual poly men out there, and I highly doubt there's accurate descriptions possible of 'most poly men.'
And it was entirely thoughtful and loving of you to let his secondary know. I hope you're doing all you can to take the best care of yourself.