Some people don't use the L word much for whatever reason(s). It has very little to do with being "secondary" or non-monogamous. I know plenty of monogamous people who don't say "i love you" very often. And yes actions do speak louder. If someone said it all the time but didn't show it, would you prefer that over what you are getting now instead?
Having said that, i can't tell you what is going on inside your boyfriend's mind and heart or what it really means to him.
Last edited by BoringGuy; 01-12-2013 at 01:22 PM.