Originally Posted by SweetSensations
I am not sure at what point my behaviour becomes abusive to my love.
At what point does your husband's behavior become abusive to you...?
I think a lot of people would consider that it crossed that line a long time ago, though it doesn't sound like you feel that way. That's fine, but it seems so unbalanced - I think you need to either be as hard on him as you are on yourself, or, better yet - as easy on yourself as you are on him.
He's focused on his needs, not yours - so do what you need to do to be happy and feel good that you are finding a way to do it without breaking up your marriage.
You deserve sex and intimacy. You also deserve to feel good about yourself.