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Old 01-10-2013, 11:46 PM
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How can anyone answer that, really? There isn't any set formula. How much time do you want with them? How much time do they want? How much time can either of you spare? What feels like enough? What feels like not enough?

It's a personal thing. Just as it is a personal choice to categorize a relationship according to a hierarchy (not everybody has a primary nor wants one), it is also a very personal thing to figure out how much time anyone can or wants to spend with someone. Nobody else can tell you what's right for you.

Is there some issue or strain on your time that prompted you to ask?
The world opens up... when you do.

"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry
"Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia "

An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:

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