Thank you both so much for your suggestions and feedback. I really like the rating system, GG, and I really appreciated reading that article, Allsacred.
I think sometimes I have a difficult time finding the balance between experiencing emotional weather in the way that I feel I need to (crying, journaling, seeking reassurance) and trying so hard to not over-burden J with how I am feeling (because even if I don't talk to him directly about my feelings, he witnesses how I am feeling). I think being able to remind myself and him that most of my feelings are emotional weather could be good communication to invest in, as it will remind both of us that they are feelings, and not requests for behavior changes, boundary changes, etc.
Thank you for the love!