SnarklePop- I think you are right, it is tougher sometimes coming from a marital standpoint, wondering if you feel this way about Poly because it speaks to who you are as a person, or is it because you are a having issues you are avoiding (perhaps without notice). I appreciate your comments, it gives me a little hope going further, that I may still practice polyamory, when it makes sense in my relationship. I also appreciate the respect you are giving me for my need of privacy in my relationship.
I am still in the thick of figuring this craziness out, and I have been talking to everyone under the sun the last few weeks, I just couldn't bear telling the whole story all over again to a completely unrelated person...what can I say, I'm lazy!
Have courage to continue this journey, for it holds nothing but lessons and wonders.