Question and introduction
I am a monogamous male, married 17 years, wife "cheated" on me last year. I found out and she confessed a desire for poly. We had lightly discussed it previously but this forced the issue. I am willing to discuss the idea of poly. I have read ethical slut and opening up. Listened to poly podcasts. I think I would prefer a quad situation, we are very busy and have a teenager so time is tight. Now to my questions, we occasionally have heated discussions and she feels as though I keep backing off so I can keep her as the bad guy. I have been kicking the idea of "cheating" on her just to even the playing field. She is fine and actually offered it early on. Have any of you had a similar situation or has any advice for my situation.