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Old 01-09-2013, 06:24 AM
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Originally Posted by SearchingforMyself View Post
I've been invited to a nice restaurant with JP and J for J's birthday. I'm torn because . . . I'm not sure how I'll be when the situation is reversed and it's my birthday . . . Help - am I overthinking this?
Yes, it would seem so.

Originally Posted by SearchingforMyself View Post
II don't know what I'm going to want to do in 3 months when my birthday will be coming up
Well then, there's no need to worry or be "torn." If you want to make sure you get to do what you want, with whomever you want, then make plans in advance. If you're not into planning, then you could find yourself either stuck doing nothing, or in a situation you don't really want to be in. Either way, it isn't really worth worrying about, is it? I wouldn't think they'd expect you to invite them both to whatever you want to do. There's no rule that you have to, just because you were invited to hers. I mean, it's your birthday.
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