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Old 01-09-2013, 03:39 AM
SearchingforMyself SearchingforMyself is offline
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Originally Posted by BreatheDeeply View Post
Do you know if you want her at your birthday yet? Or is that the dilemma?
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Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
Um, why would you think the "situation" will automatically be "reversed" for your birthday? Why wouldn't you choose what you want to do and whom you want to be with for your own birthday?
I'd say it's more the first quote than the second. I don't know what I'm going to want to do in 3 months when my birthday will be coming up - but I'm fairly sure that while I may want to have some private time with JP, I will probably also want to have some celebrating time with both of them.

I'm still getting used to having a shared sweetie and am trying to not overthink and over worry since I am the secondary. Plus, while JP and J have pretty much always had a sexually open relationship, I'm the first "mistress" that he has brought home and that J has been friends with. We're all still figuring out how this will work - including our differing definitions/experiences with the term "FWB" and why it's positive for both of them and horribly negative for me.
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Me: bi female in a relationship since 09/2012 with
JP: my straight boyfriend who has been married for 13+ years to
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