Originally Posted by riftara
I don't know what to do. my counselor said I'm taking advantage of R. I don't want to do that, he says I'm not, but now I have it in my head that I have.
I'm holding back tears, I'm at work, I can't cry. Not over this.
OK, your counselor called you on something you didn't realize you were doing and didn't intend to do or truly may not be doing. Step back, look at your situation. Ask your self, "Is it balanced?" Have there been times, where he has been the one taking more than he might be giving? Some people work in cycles. If you think you could make changes, do it.
It happens to all of us, it will be OK.