The one big question left now is -- do I tell her about my mental shift away from needing her and Dexter to limit their intimate time together based on what she and I have? I think so. I'm just a little nervous that I'll say it's ok, and then she'll go for it (which would honestly be a little surprising, but is not out of the realm of possibility), and then I'll turn out to be liar if I'm not actually ok. I'd like to think, now, that I would be? But I don't really know. Hmm. :/
I guess I can just explain all of it, tell her I let go of the limit in my head, that I still can't swear that I'd be ok, but that I feel a lot better about it and that she should do what she wants and just tell me whatever she thinks is important for me to know.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.