Originally Posted by Xared
If anyone doesn't like it they can kiss my ass.
Okay, but can we cuddle and talk first?
I couldn't help myself (above).
You make a good point about how the "Code" differs from person to person, "community" to community.... Still, there are nearly ubiquitous norms in various societies (e.g., the USA). And those norms are enforced -- sometimes as laws, more often in the way mores are enforced (See Anthropology 101).
I think more and more of us are beginning to question "The Code" ... and are beginning to create a whole new paradigm which allows for much more diversity of orientations and values. And I don't think this means wreck and ruin, as some religious zealots and conformity fanatics do. But it does mean we need to practice our communication skills, as you implied.
See: (informal means of social control):
Excerpt from that link: "Informal sanctions may include shame, ridicule, sarcasm, criticism, and disapproval, which can cause an individual to stray towards the social norms of the society."