Originally Posted by dust
This is a great thread, and I want to participate but I don't have as much time as I'd like.
But this (below) is very accurate for me.
I think vulnerability is perhaps the most important piece to me. It's hard for me to imagine feeling intimacy without that. Maybe it would be insightful to consider what makes communication NOT be intimate?
When I see a vulnerability, it makes me want to hold or help or touch or share. It seems to be what comes first. If you see something in someone else, then you feel something (appreciation, warmth, etc) in return. Conversely, if you share a (fear, hope or dream - something you care about) then you hope for those feelings in return.
Some people are scared to show their own vulnerability when they see it in others, which prompts them to attack the 'weakness'.
Have you read anything by Brene Brown? I think you'd like (and agree) with her.
Me (Lilac) - pan, queer woman, spouse to Programmer
Programmer - Spouse of Lilac, bisexual man
Not currently in relationships with others.