Originally Posted by opalescent
Same rules apply to a poly community as to any other community. Listen to your instincts. If someone or some situation seems off to you, then get away or get out of that situation. Listen to each other too - your spouse may notice something you don't and vice versa. I have had success with assuming that people are trustworthy and not malicious *unless* my instincts ping or they do something untrustworthy to myself or friends. Our instincts developed to protect us from predators and that extends to social predators as well as the clueless, the drama-ridden and the stupid. Your instincts will give you a warning long before your conscious mind. Pay attention.
Thanks - it's good sense really but always good to have it reinforced.
"Take the risk of thinking for yourself, much more happiness, truth, beauty, and wisdom will come to you that way." - C. Hitchens
Me: Male, het, 48, adaptable