Yes, I didn't think of it as constraining to ask for some feedback or to allow me to process my feelings with her. I believe that you are correct, she has felt constrained in her past. Trying to deal with that dynamic as well as her desire to be open to anything. I am willing to try, just odd that she goes from "you are wonderful, I wish I could be the person you want" to "I don't even like the term "couple" as it implies obligations."
But the STD issue and safe sex will be the line I draw in the sand, for sure.