Nursey, is there NO willingness on your husband's part to compromise and schedule things so that BOTH you and the g/f get your needs met, at least equally? Hell, if anything, you're the primary and should get the lion share of your hubby's time. That's how my b/f and I work it out with our respective mates. I wouldn't dream of expecting to spend MORE time with him than his wife does, no matter how much I love spending time with him. Not sure why you put up with it. Just my opinion.
I tried being reasonable. I didn't like it. ~Clint Eastwood~