Giving her space has been the hardest thing for me to do. Sometimes I tend to "over talk" the issues. I also believe that he had no problem cheating and that he avoided asking questions which answer he knew he wouldn't like. It seems like she is starting to see this things and to forgive herself, but the feelings are still there.
Being poly over here is not easy(is it easy anywhere?) and so far it's been hurtful for both of us, but we've learned and still believe in it!
Thanks a lot for the welcome!