So, for the record, the woman you're seeking can be ~20 years younger than you, but not more than ~5 years older than you? And you're not worried about that coming off as completely shallow and a huge turn-off to a potential new partner? Sorry, I know this might sound harsh, but you've gotta realize how it sounds...
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.