I was reading that yu must reassure them that they still have choices and that they are number one. It would be better if he participated in setting ground rules or boundaries. Strange that even though he is feeling insecure he will not give me sex at all. He could have stopped this very easily by just giving me his stiff heat.
The turning point was when he said he was not stimulated my me at all. So I took him in the bedroom and blew some hot air into his shorts and got on top to show I could make him hard easily. It was okay to think that but not say it out loud.