I think we're in the midst of rediscovering how to balance what each of us need from the other while having partners that are similar to us in so many ways, if that makes sense
Makes total sense to me. It's changing mindset from "This is how I am with my partner" to "This is how I am with THIS partner, this is how I am with THAT partner." Because not all people are the same.
"Platinum rule" is to treat others how THEY want to be treated. So one actually has to go find out how from the source.