Wow, that is quite an uplifting happy ending. I am glad that you guys were able to get on the same page, after the years of fear! It's too bad polyamory isn't better known (and accepted); people wouldn't have go through such trials and errors to find (or reinvent it).
I am glad you could join our forum. I hope you find it a profitable and interesting experience (as I have).
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"