Originally Posted by UpsideDown
DH would not want me in a non-sexual D/s relationship with anyone else, although I wouldn't care if he had one (under a broad set of circumstances). He is alright with me taking a work trip out of town with CG and holding her all night...I would not be okay with him doing that with anyone. Do those kinds of not-in-kind exchanges work for other people?
Sure. I could give you all kinds of examples from my own relationships, but ultimately here's what decides what is "fair": Are you okay with it? Is he okay with it? Are any other people involved okay with it? Ultimately that's all that matters. We learn from the time we're children that "fair" doesn't always mean "equal" or "the same". That applies here too.
Pan Female, Hinge in a V between my mono (straight) husband, Monochrome and my poly (pan) partner, ThatGuyInBlack