[cue resumption of piano music]
Welcome to our forum, Fish1470. It sounds like so far you guys are doing a good job of taking it in small steps, communicating, and re-negotiating on occasion as needed. If you continue with that process, you'll probably come out okay.
It is quite commendable that you've been supportive toward Kat in her exploration of this "other side" of herself. I'm sure she's appreciative of that.
Explore our site some more, find out what threads call to you, and post any thoughts or questions you may have. It's great to have you aboard.