Originally Posted by UpsideDown
Am I being utterly unfair in this? Does this make me a terrible person?
Do the empathy exercise. Imagine a reversal of the situation. If at some point you were to ask for, or insist upon, the freedom to love who you wish to love while not offering the same freedom to your guy, yeah, that would hardly be fair.
My impression is that the both of you need to examine your thoughts, feelings, desires and needs much more fully, in light of the change of circumstance. Ideally, you'll each be supportive, kind, loving and generous to one another as you do so. My feeling is that you both have much to learn as you explore a new terrain together.
This related post may be of interest.: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showp...46&postcount=6