Originally Posted by snowbunnie
I also have feelings of selfishness and guilt because while I'd like to have another relationship with another man, I am not okay with the current bf having another relationship with another woman. I am however okay with him having fwbs.
Does this make me a bad person, because I really feel like it....
It doesn't mean you're a bad person, but it may mean you have a need to practice some empathy with your boyfriend. By which I mean you should perhaps imagine how you might feel if the situation were reversed.
The exercise I'm advocating (above) can't be handled in a quick and trivial manner. Don't hurry through it. REALLY imagine a reversal of the situation ... and how that would feel for you.
The phrase "double standard" comes to mind here, though usually double standards involve differing groups of people in which a certain group has less privilege than another. See: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_standard
In this case, I don't think you hold more social power or privilege than your boyfriend. It's more a case where you seem to want to offer him less than you would require for yourself -- regardless of privileged status. Specifically, you don't want him loving others but you want the freedom to do so. You'd like to restrict his freedom while enjoying your own.