With very limited experience my only advice can be you need to focus on you. In your post you mentioned it was time to be honest with yourself and embrace your needs and wants, with that in mind you have to question if #2 is going to help or hinder your growth. When your trying to embrace a new you do you really need people around you who are constantly trying to make you the previous version.
For me, and it's only a humble opinion, if the people around you can't accept the person you want to be, then you will only end up being either someone they don't want you to be or someone you don't want to be in an attempt to make them happy.
Wise man once say... Love yourself, you're the only person you absolutely have to spend your whole life with.