Originally Posted by dakid
yours and others insistence that in doing so we are changing the meaning of the word polyamory is insulting, frankly. have you not been reading our posts?
My intent was most definitely not to insult anybody - I have said repeatedly that there are many valid opinions out there. If anyone feels insulted I apologize. I used the term to mean the sense of something being unclear, rather than clear, nothing more.
I have seen a post on another forum that posited (quite sincerely) that since the word "polyamory" means literally "Many loves", then it's perfectly ok for someone who has many friends that they love as friends, and would lay down their life for them, while only being married to one person could legitimately call themselves "polyamorous" - when challenged that the normal definition is one of the romantic-style of love, they were slammed as being "elitist".
Others have stated that "swinging is not polyamory", which others believe that one is a subset of the other (and opinions seem to be divided as to which way around it is).
I am not trying to say which is wrong or right, here. Merely that there seems to me to be a competing effort here - one side wants to nail down the definition to a narrower term, another wishes to widen it but still define it, and still others wish to make it whatever anybody using the word wants it to be. My point was simply that each approach will have different consequences and different results and that while we debate about this there is increased obfuscation - a lack of clarity or understanding. I was not attempting a value judgment on that. Apologies if it sounded that way.