Originally Posted by Petunia
... I wish my husband would allow me to back myself away from those instant reactions and not hold it against me when I'd give anything to erase that moment, because it truly isn't always the truth.
This very much resonated with me...thank you for saying it out loud (or in type, in public, as the case may be
. I can have initial reactions for reasons that I don't understand, that are interpreted in a certain way, and, after I puzzle it out, don't reflect the way that I REALLY feel, just an fleeting thought. I often can't refute the impression at the time because, until I look at it closer, I don't always know why I had the initial reaction.