I'm not seeing that anything horrible is actually happening here. Your people are not wigging out or rushing into things or anything. Mainly it seems to be you dealing with your own anxiety? Could you be working yourself up? "What iffing" things too much?
Sounds like your main need is hearing both people reaffirm their commitment to you. That YES, she will still be your friend. That YES, he is not going to blow his stack at you, he is still committed to being your husband and committed to the marriage. Could that help assuage the anxiety?
If so... maybe could ask them for that. To verbally reassure you that nobody is going to go anywhere and leave you stranded. That however it is that it ends up, they are going to see this through with you.
Last edited by GalaGirl; 12-27-2012 at 12:34 AM.