Originally Posted by rory
One thing is wants (from others), another is personal boundaries (wants for myself). The first is something you ask for, and may or may not get it. The latter is something you don't need to ask for, it is something you enforce for yourself.
That's a much better way to put it. Wants vs Boundaries. Go teamwork!
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someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
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