yes, we are thinking of different answers to our situation now, we may go to a more open marriage and see how that works out. we have a lot of talking to do... yes it is a tall order.. we might need to widen our search. I think dating separately might have a chance. we will need to consider these choices...i guess that might be the only way we might find the solution we are looking for.
our end goal is to be able to raise kids together. it is a tall order. we are going to keep looking.