That's a good point, we learn different things from different people. One of the advantages of polyamory.
I also take your point about dating, as dating can be something of an "artificial construct" where two people are kind of trying to impress each other. It is good to just let a friendship develop naturally.
I hope you find your time on our site to be enjoyable and helpful.
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