In response to you, Kevin, I'm actually happier now with being "purposely single," I stopped needing to think about why nobody seemed to want to be with me.
I do recognize my attraction to various people which is why I don't consider myself completely asexual. Granted, sexual orientation constantly changes for a lot of people who open up to the idea.
I don't really go on dates, I find dates to be severely limiting when getting to know someone. I don't even really date. Usually how it goes is that there is a mutual attraction that is established at some point and things progress from that moment.
I may (and probably will) decide to be "with" someone for an extended period of time but I don't know if I'll ever want to limit myself to one person because I think we get different relations out of different people and therefore learn more about ourselves through the process.