Last night was our Old Skool Christmas Party - an annual tradition where I have all the peeps from my wild teens over to reminisce, catch up and share laughs. Fire blazing, table full of snacks, everyone seemed to have a really great time, "You throw the best parties!" on the way out the door at nearly 2am. My Big Love (read, most disastrous partner ever) from ages 15-18 was there, and we had some nice interactions - there were a lot of years there where I wouldn't have been able to just hang and talk with him, but it's such ancient history that I have finally reached a place of full calm around him. Craw. drank too much, too fast and ended up sleeping on the couch in the midst of a virtual riot of conversations. B., one of the newer friends of some of the bunch has a penchant for riding crops that we inadvertantly discovered last year, and a few folks enjoyed winding up on him - I have respect for someone who is so blatantly kinky in a room full of fairly vanilla folks, and it certainly had everyone talking and laughing and engaging with each other around kink. So funny. The eyebrows on my ex when he asked why I had two crops was fun for me, "Oh, this is the home crop, and this is my travel crop....." My life is tucked away from plain view, and it was fun to give him a teeny peek into it.
This morning marks the beginning of what could be a very fun, or tiring 24 hours. Maybe both. Holiday parties are reaching their full swing now, and as an introvert, it always gets to be a bit much right about this time. I've done get togethers, staff parties, parties at my businesses, the Old Skool party, and now have one of my bestie's b-day/Christmas parties (massive sleepover of about 10 girls, big dinner, etc) then an open house kinda day at our house on Sunday, Christmas Eve at our house with my whole family, and Christmas day here, followed by driving nearly 2 hours to Elemental's parents' house for Christmas afternoon and evening. Phewph. At some point I'll crawl under a holiday rock and relax, but today is not the time for it.
I recently purchased a Canon 7D after a longstanding curiousity with photography. Oddly, I have a large number of photographers in my life - some professionally trained who work in the field on a daily basis, others hobbyists who have attended online and casual courses. Willow is an incredibly gifted photographer - his work is sensual, beautiful and vulnerable - he also is an INTJ so his brain learns and processes things in the same way that mine does, so when he offered to teach me the basics I was ecstatic, and very hopeful that E. would be fine with this. He is, and today is going to be my first lesson; Elemental is dropping me off at Willow's house on his way into the city - I still have a key to his house, so I'm going to hang out for awhile as he is off for Christmas lunch with family. He has assignements and lesson plans drawn up for me, and I can't wait to sink my teeth into it all.
From there he'll drop me off at TT's bday/Christmas party, and we'll eat and make merry for the evening. Lily is due to pick me up in the morning, and one of her partners A. is hoping to join us for the drive back to our hometown so that we can hang out, eat yummy food, walk the dogs, and just generally chill. It sounds like several people are going to stop by over the course of Sunday; maybe a boardgame party, some people want to visit, others want to meet each other for the first time. Willow might come, as might Mahogany (she has been in deep talks with her husband, and her integrity seems to be shifting into a more comfortable place - have to talk with her more and see what is going on there before I jump to any overly positive conclusions, mind you.) I invited my sister and her partner, but it's unlikely that they will come.
Busy, busy, busy. I did my best to take it easy this week - carving out slower pacing to the days whenever I could, taking half days off, and just providing myself with some space and time to fill up my introverted reserves for heading into this next week. I do enjoy all of the people that I'm spending time with, so in that sense it isn't exhausting, but it's still a lot. Will treasure my time in bed with Elemental, snuggling up with the one person that I can just melt into. He is as good as being alone as I can just BE with him, without any expectations or needing to externalize anything. Can just be.
Sync emailed me out of the blue to let me know that she was going to drop some stuff off at one of my businesses, but so far, I haven't heard anything from my staff. Not sure if she chickened out, or if the timing was off, or if my matter-of-fact reply threw her off. It's nice to be utterly unconcerned about it, that's for sure.
Well, time to start getting ready - shower, pack, get my camera gear together, etc. I'm sure I'll be on here again before Christmas rolls around, but just in case, Happy Holidays everyone!!
Where you go... there you are.
Me: 35. TD, 43, my monogamous beau. Lily: 31, my lady/lover, in two other relationships. Mahogany: 38, my girlfriend, in one other relationship. Elemental: 44, my ex husband.