Welcome to our forum.
I hope we can be of some help to you, as you get your new life situation worked out and face your various challenges. Sometimes it takes awhile in the early stages of a poly relationship, for the turmoil to settle down. I know my poly unit (a V) had some drama for the first couple of years.
I'm sure you'll do fine, just hang in there. Let us know if you have any thoughts, comments, or questions.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"