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Old 12-29-2009, 10:29 PM
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Ceoli and constlady, your words resonate within me.

Another way to look at it is that each person should be aware of their own "bottom lines" - things that they absolutely have to have in life. Whether that is growth in a particular direction or a boundary that shouldn't be crossed. People who love and care for you will respect those (assuming you communicate it with them) and will accompany you along that path, assuming that it doesn't violate some need of their own, of course. If it does violate it, then the right thing to do is to recognise that and wish them luck on their continuing journey.

Expecting someone else to violate their own bottom line in order to prove their love for you, or, worse, of accusing them of not loving you enough if they don't violate their bottom line for you is a selfish and disrespectful act, in my opinion.
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