Primary depressed, cancel date?
I have a question. My primary and I live together, and he is feeling a bit depressed due to the holidays. I'm leaving on Thursday morning to visit my family up in NY for ten days, but he sadly cannot come with me. He is feeling bummed that he does not get to be with his family or me this christmas, and that he cannot get his kids the gifts he wants to (we just moved into a new place and have been pouring all our money into actually getting things functional and settling in since we moved from San Francisco).
Tomorrow night is our weekly date night, but I also set up a date for tonight last week. It is my first date since my partner and I moved to New Orleans, and I'm pretty excited about it. I'm pondering if I should cancel it or not to be there for him. I know he says he wants me to go no matter how he feels, but I feel a guilty for going out and having fun when my primary is not in the best place. I know he does not want me to miss fun things because of him, but I really do not mind staying if he would like me to.
Has anyone else been in this place before?