I've spent so much of myself trying in this relationship that I'm just spent, so for now it is what it is.
Again... if this marriage is dead, end it. Then go ahead and poly date free of baggage.
I am not making light of your situation by any means. I know it's not a fun place.
But it's like -- offering yourself as a dating partner with pending baggage (crazy marriage stuff) vs offering yourself as a dating partner that is baggage free. (marriage stuff already dealt with and no longer looming.)
at this time = closed married polyship of 2 with DH.
Chronic patient = fuzzy brain at times. (If I make no sense in a post, just PM me and I'll happily try to clarify it later.)