RP, happy birthday. I am glad you and Derby had a nice spa and dinner time.
As for Mono, I don't know anything but what you've posted over the years, but I do recall him saying that if you were to get another lover (besides your gf, him and your husband), he would draw away.
And yet somehow you did get 2 more bfs, and he has drawn away as he said he would. Your style of doing polyamory is not his... he's off doing his own thing... He lost the feeling of specialness he had, I think. His RP having 5 lovers was too much for him to handle.
I could be totally off base. Just my outsider's perspective.
I am sorry he won't communicate and make a new agreement, or a clean break. You're in limbo and that is a terrible place to be.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
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