Originally Posted by jewels6675
In a way I guess I was in a poly relationship before was just not aware of it. I dated a guy for 8 years and for 4 of those years I shared him with another woman...but I wasnt aware of her....I found out about her. It's possible that I could be happy while sharing someone...I just can't say for certain.
That wasn't poly; he was cheating on you. Ethical non-monogamy and cheating are not one and the same and never will be.
As for you wanting him to himself, slow down. You're caught up right now, in emotions and flooding and good feels. When you can examine it more closely out of the lovey haze it'll be easier to see how that can't coincide unless he agrees to end his other relationship and move out. At this point y'all are not on the same page.
So while you may not wanna be criticized, no one here is about to tell you "Yeah! You go get your man girl!"
Won't happen. Don't expect it to. I would apologize for the lack of sugarcoating but believe me, it wouldn't help.