12-08-2012, 11:04 PM
Join Date: Jan 2012
Let me second Kevin's "Welcome!"
I am also married with OSO - a hinge in a MFM Vee - and have been poly since before they had a word for it). Neither of my boys is seeing anyone else (although I anticipate Dude will at some point).
The three of us live together. During the early months I struggled with keeping things "balanced" as well. This has lessened over time as I slowly internalized the concept that "fair" =/= "equal". As long as I am providing each relationship with the care and attention it requires I am doing my part. Each person has their own wants/needs to be addressed...and these are not the same for each.
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (23+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (4+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
Lotus: "it's complicated"
SLeW: platonic girlfriend + BFF
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.
My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe