Originally Posted by Love2Bake
He doesnt want only you. He also wants his girlfriend-the one that is more than half his age. Yep. He is into her. Her age may be a huge part of his attraction. So be careful how you try to put her down. She has wisdom and experience over you. And that can be VERY sexy.
He isnt going to commit to you and only you. He met you, while living with another woman.
I think you need to get your head out of the clouds. This guy isn't monogamous. If you choose to be with him, they you are choosing to share him with his other woman, and probably anyone else he meets along the way.
To think you'll get in there and take him away from her is funny. You'll lose. I guarantee you that. You'll play wifey and try to be better than her. But you'll wind up moving out in a huff because he never gives in.
Just chalk it up as a loss and move on. I'd be single for a while if I were you and work on me for a while. Nobody should settle for less than what they want. You don't want to share him so why would you even consider settling for sharing him? I think it's time for you to work on you for a while. Then get back in the dating game. You've got to be healthy and strong to attract healthy and strong.
Just my two cents!
I couldn't agree more that we shouldn't settle for less then what it is we want...and I have never nor wil I ever settle. I have been single for almost 4 years...and I am picky and would rather be alone verses settleing just to have someone.
In a way I guess I was in a poly relationship before was just not aware of it. I dated a guy for 8 years and for 4 of those years I shared him with another woman...but I wasnt aware of her....I found out about her. It's possible that I could be happy while sharing someone...I just can't say for certain.
I have enjoyed getting to know him, and I'm not ready to give up and walk away....from him or the situation....and I won't untill I decide what it is I can live with and be a part of.