Originally Posted by amk
I feel like you are over-simplifying this.
I pointed out two sentences, written in your own words, that directly contradict each other. Your repsonse is to defend yourself. That tells me I have discovered an unresolved core issue between you and your wife. You isolate yourself from her when you feel the need to. Poly brings to the surface all unresolved issues between partners. This is one of yours that is coming to the surface. You can take a close look at it now, or you can wait for another opportunity ( drama ) to look at it later. Your choice.