Thank you for your thoughts, WhatHappened.
I'm glad you "got" it. I think I don't get it.
I'm frustrated. My husband has been completely, brutally honest with me, since the day ( which was one month in to his EA) I found out. He has been open about everything, way too much sometimes, he has never spent an overnight with her. Because I am having more problems, he took it slower in his eyes, had some of my actions to certain things been different, he believes we would have been further along.
Thanks again. I'm back to processing thoughts.