Pede is a lucky man. Born in the Northern hemisphere, as a white male. Beats being a female in Bangladesh, or a kid in Zimbabwe.
Pede is 42 years old and has struggled with the fallacies of the concept of monogamy since he was maybe 15 years old.
Never really understood that it was ok for me to go out bowling with a male friend, have a good time for a couple of hours and not think about my girlfriend but that it was not ok to get some nookie and not think about her for a few hours.
Over time I have come to realize that, at least for me, being poly is just like being gay or (fill in your own analogy). There is no choice in it, it just is.
So when I meet someone new, I just put it on the line. There once was this woman, she was just about perfect as a human being could be, but my "handicap" was for her non negotiable, and for me either, we never could come to an agreement and it ended.
I am at a really nice point in my life, I feel very secure in myself, I do not have to have any demands on nobody. The last year was somewhat dry when it comes to the frequency of sex (Yes, really I like the deed of darkness, in all its forms) and meaningful relationships. But I was asked by a man to be intimate with his wife, because his crank was broken from prostate surgery and he wanted her to be happy. So every couple of weeks she and I will engage, he may watch or partake, or just sleep on the couch. None of us is ashamed but in this small town I live in you don't want to mention it to anyone or you might as well put out an ad on the frontpage.
Then about two months ago I craigslisted and oh my gawd, the roof came down, not one but two women I met, and you know, they are both really nice. It was extra bizar to find out I had met both of them , one 20 years ago and one 5 years agoboth are exes of friends of my best friend, anyway I met them days apart and now I wish there were 10 days in a week. All and all are in the know for my mind is too scattered to have to live with lies that you have to remember. Veee ing it I guess, told them both that their phone nrs are on the fridge if they want to connect. I have no idea how it would be to have them both in my house at the same time, maybe atypical but it really isn't myfantasy to have a threesome, dang, sounds like work to me...
But maybe that would be my question to you all, how is that to have both partners in your house at the same time? Is it freaky? Do you feel torn?
Anyway, Pede is smiling about this silly universe of ours.
Last edited by plonzer; 02-22-2009 at 10:21 PM.