good question Roly, I would have to agree that to give love means it comes back to you.
We read the book "The five love languages" last year (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gary_Chapman_%28author%29
). the book expresses that there are five ways to give and receive love and that sometimes it helps to know which way your partner prefers to feel loved. It also can help to know how you like to receive love also in order to ask for what you need.
For me it's "acts of service" that for the long haul makes me think I am loved. Of course "physical touch," "words of affirmation" and "quality time" are big too, "receiving gifts" was the last on my list... right before "quality time." (http://www.afo.net/hftw-lovetest.asp
Food for thought anyway.... seeing as you are already reading...
P.S roly-so cool you met my husband on line!!!