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Old 12-06-2012, 04:24 AM
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Yes, it is possible to live together and co-parent a child if you are no longer romantically involved. Many people have accomplished that. But I gotta say...

You are remarkably calm and matter-of-fact for a six-month pregnant woman whose fiance just dumped her in order to manipulate some other chick into "committing" to him. Sheesh, what kind of father is he going to be when the going gets rough? What an asshole move. Why are you still willing to go to the ends of the earth for a guy who just showed you how easily he will abandon the mother of his child for some irrational need of his? WTF? Is this an issue of low self-esteem? If so, you need to find your spine, honey! If I were you, I'd start looking for other means of support -- family, friends, charities, the government, etc., -- and change my locks. Let him know that if he expects to continue living with you, YOU need HIM to COMMIT -- to being an adult and a responsible co-parent to your child OR ELSE he's out on his ass! With an irresponsible man like that, you might be better off without him, unless he shapes up. Don't tolerate that shit. You'll soon have a baby to look out for.
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