Thread: A jealous Ex
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Old 12-27-2009, 02:56 PM
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FitChick, I think your approach is very mature and sensible.

It sounds to me like her "bottom line" isn't compatible with you and him having a relationship. There's really no point wasting time even trying to make things work - they're not going to.

This is between him and her, and I think you are absolutely right in requiring him to get this sorted out before you and he enter into something more committed (like you moving).

Personally, I don't see the value with you and her having any contact - it just gives her another avenue to be angry with someone, and try to potentially manipulate the situation (if that is her style, and I obviously don't know her, so am guessing). What does having this contact bring to the effort of resolving this?

It definitely sounds like you are on the right track with this, based on what you have said.

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